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DINA ROSE, PhD is a sociologist, parent educator and feeding expert empowering parents to raise kids who eat right.
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Tuesday
Aug252015

My Kid is a Super Eater at School but Not at Home

I'm always glad when parents tell me their children are adventurous eaters at school but not at home.

OK, maybe we're not talking adventurous. Maybe your kids are just willing to try something when it is presented by the teacher...or the nanny...or the grandparents...or...well, anyone but you.

It's frustrating. But it can also be a cause for celebration.

When children are willing to eat for someone else, it means:

  • There is no oral-motor issue to resolve.
  • No extreme sensory sensitivites.
  • No medical condition.
  • No psychological condition.
When a child eats one way with one person and another way with another person you're dealing with a plain old, garden variety, control struggle.

You can never win a control struggle by out-controlling your kid.

You might think you've won a control struggle -- your child will eat another bite of broccoli in order to get to the pie - -but this is a false win...you'll have to use the big guns again tomorrow. Read Wheelin' and Dealin': 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Trade Peas for Pie.

Control struggles often look like a game of catch: first I have the ball (control) and then you have the ball (control). We need a new model: shared control.

It doesn't mean the solution will be easy. It does mean that the path is clear.

Here is my 6 Step Plan for Turning Super School Eaters into Super Home Eaters.

This plan is authoritative parenting in action. It combines structure with warmth and compassion. It also teaches the three eating habits: proportion, variety, moderation. 

1. Discuss the situation with your child, in a non-threatening, non-accusatory, non-pressure way: "I have noticed that you are willing to eat mashed potatoes at school but you don't want to eat mashed potatoes at home. Can you tell me why?

2. Don't try to reason with your child. Don't try to talk your child out of eating this way. Don't try to talk your child into eating another way. When kids eat this way, they're not operating with their rational brain. Anything you say to "argue" your point will be met with resistence.

3. Implement the Rotation Rule and the Eating Zones Rule at home.

  • The Rotation Rule, not serving the same food two days in a row, will set a foundation for new food acceptance. It will also provide structure for making eating decisions that go beyond, "This is what I want to eat right now." The Rotation Rule makes eating decisions predictable, not arbitrary, and that cuts down on the fighting.

   If you aren't familiar with the Rotation Rule, read End Picky Eating with the Rotation Rule.

  • The Eating Zones Rule sets a structure for when food is available and when food is not available. This helps children learn the natural consequences of not eating -- they get hungry -- and that they can live with temporary hunger. Both are extremely valuable lessons for kids to learn. The Eating Zones Rule will help YOU remember that a meal or snack is always around the corner. 

   If you aren't familiar with the Eating Zones Rule, read Hunger vs. Appetite.

4. Turn your picky eater into a Food Critic. Explore the sensory properties of food with no expectation that your child will eat food that is being sampled. Read: Unleash Your Toddler's Inner Food Critic.

5. Start serving whatever you want at meals. But be nice, make sure there is always something familiar on the table.  

  • Make sure you rotate through familair foods. In other words, don't put bread on the table every day.
  • Don't make the familiar food a favorite food, such as pasta, except occasionally.
  • It's OK if the familiar food is boring, such as broccoli and/or rice.
  • Consider using a backup. Read How Cottage Cheese Changed My Life.

6. Keep the conversation going. Authoritative parenting combines structure and warmth/compassion. It is a model of shared control, that's all about teaching.

~Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits.~

Tuesday
May262015

No Health Benefit from Yogurt, Study Says

Yogurt. It's not the miracle food we've been led to believe.

That's good news. Especially if your child doesn't like to eat yogurt.

It's also good news if you've been compromising and buying heavily sweetened yogurts just to get yogurt into your kids.

A Spanish team of researchers evaluated 4445 adults and concluded:

"In comparison with people that did not eat yogurt, those who ate this dairy product regularly did not display any significant improvement in their score on the physical component of quality of life, and although there was a slight improvement mentally, this was not statistically significant..." 

Read more about the study here and here.

Does this mean you shouldn't eat yogurt?

No, it just means you shouldn't go out of your way to include yogurt in your (or your children's) diets.

But you can use yogurt can to your kids healthy eating habits—especially the habit of tasting NEW foods.

Read Yogurt on the Brain and The Magic of Yogurt.

Don't you think that it's time to move away from thinking about individual foods and individual nutrients, so we can really start focusing on the overall diet?

I do. 

~Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits.~

Thursday
Apr022015

Introducing New Foods: Where to Go From Here?

You've come a long way, baby.

But maybe not as long a way as you would like.

  • The good news is that if you follow this step-by-step, blow-by-blow guide to introducing new foods, it's guaranteed to change how your kids eat.
  • The bad news is that no matter how much progress you make, at some point, your child will slide back.

This is the last installment in my series The Step-by-Step, Blow-by-Blow Guide to Introducing New Foods that's Guaranteed to Change How Your Kids Eat. If you're new, start here.

Here's my last piece of advice...and I'm sorry, it might feel like a downer, but it's meant to be an upper.

You've got to plan for failure...er...the future!

In my experience, kids will "play along" for some amount of time...until they stop. (I hate to be the one to break it to you.)

The thing to remember is that these setbacks are just that...setbacks.

If you have a plan then the setback won't throw you off-track. It will just be a pause. A deep breath. A moment of reflection.

What can you do when your children—who have been doing a really good job tasting new foods— suddenly stop tasting new foods?

  1. Talk to your kids about what is going on in a non-judgmental way.
  2. Take a mini-vacation from tasting.
  3. Take a few steps back. Reverting to an easier step will bring your child back onboard. Instead of tasting, offer a smell, a touch, or just a look.
  4. Pull out the heavy hitters: start offering tastes of ice cream, cookies, etc. This reminds your children that tasting can be fun. Read Take a Walk on the Wild Side.
  5. Remember those shampoo instructions: rinse and repeat.
  6. Have a class of wine!

Got questions? Ask.

~Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits.~