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Tuesday
Jul022013

When Should Kids Eat Their Cupcakes?

Here's the scenario: You go to a party. On the buffet table there is a big spread. Lots of real food, and some cupcakes. What do you do?

  • Insist that your kids eat the real food before they eat a cupcake? OR
  • Let them load their plates up with real food and a cupcake? 

That's the scenario Sally at Real Mom Nutrition recently faced. She let her kids each take a cupcake with their meals. Then, Sally didn't monitor the situation when her boys ate their cupcakes first.

Read Sally's post: Let Them Eat Cupcakes.

Parents often tie themselves in knots trying to get their kids to eat their food in a certain order.

This feeds the fight. And it misses the main point. The goal is to teach kids proportion, i.e. to teach them to know how much crap they can consume. 

Here's a favorite post that explains. It doesn't matter when your kids eat their crap; what matters is how much crap they eat.

(If you're not convinced, read Sally's post. It will show how this strategy works in real life.)

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Parents are obsessed with the order in which their kids eat food!

Or at least that is what an alien visitor would probably conclude.

  • “Finish your food.  Then you can have dessert.”
  • “Two more bites of broccoli before you eat your brownie.”
  • “If you want some ice cream you have to eat your pizza first.”
  • “No, you may not have candy before breakfast. You have to wait until after lunch.”

But really, it doesn’t matter when your kids eat their crap; what matters is how much crap they eat.

Trying to control when your kids eat their sweets and treats is a losing battle.

As far as I can tell, parents don’t fixate on regulating the order of their kids’ eating because they’re concerned about etiquette. (Although, on some level it is true that we do need to teach our little heathens not to attack dessert first so they’ll pass muster at their first black-tie event, but that’s material for another post.)  

Instead, parents become timekeepers for two reasons:

1) Parents are convinced that without a little incentive their kids would never touch anything green.

2) Parents are trying to convey something about the relative importance of sweets and treats compared to vegetables and other healthy foods: sweets come last because they’re less essential.

Unfortunately, neither goal can be accomplished by holding out on sweets and treats.

Research shows that:

1) Bribing kids to eat broccoli is a surefire way to ruin its reputation — I’m having flashbacks to high school, and it’s not pretty — just as it reinforces the superior status of sweets.  So kids learn that vegetables are important (like chores) but not desirable. This lesson lasts a lifetime.

2) Pressuring kids to eat something (and bribing or controlling the order in which your kids get to eat is indeed a form of pressure) makes kids eat less of the target food. 

Trying to put vegetables and other healthy fare first doesn’t actually work.

Letting your kids control when they eat their sweets and treats isn’t the same thing as giving them a free-for-all. 

You still need to provide some structured guidance.

1) Rather than teach your children that they need to eat healthy foods before they eat their sweets and treats, teach them the about proportion. In other words, teach your kids to eat more healthy foods and lesssweets and treats overall. Read It Doesn’t Matter What Your Kids Eat!

2) Set a daily or weekly limit on sweets and treats and then let your children decide when they get the goodies.  If you’re worried that candy before dinner will ruin your kids’ appetite, make sure the serving size is small.  It won’t just solve your immediate problem; it’s also the right lesson for your kids to learn.  Read Candy with Breakfast?

3) Reinforce the message at parties and other special-eating events where the desserts always look fabulous.  Don’t insist your kids eat the healthy offerings before the desserts. Instead, give your kids some guidance on the goodies, and then direct them to the mains if they’re still hungry. (And make yourself feel better by remembering that at these events the healthy food isn’t usually that healthy anyway.)

4) Consider serving the dessert at the same time as the dinner.

5) Upgrade the quality of your kids’ snacks to include more fruits and vegetables and take the pressure off dinner.  Read 10 Ways Improving Your Kids’ Snacking Will Improve YOUR Life.

Release yourself (and your kids) from the bondage of time.  It will teach your kids the habits they need for a lifetime of healthy eating (and eliminate at least one of the headaches of parenting). Read How Do I Get My Child to Eat More Growing Foods?

For more on this topic read, To Restrict or Not, That is the Question.

~ Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits. ~

Tuesday
Jun222010

Slackers Rule.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the time, the interest or the skills to track the nutrients my daughter consumes.  But even if I did, I’m much too lazy.  Quite frankly, just getting food into her multiple times each day is about all I can muster.  I’m a slacker.

That’s why all the nutrition advice out there is useless to me: Not only can’t I keep track of how many servings of vegetables my daughter is supposed to eat, I don’t even know how many vegetables are in a serving.  Do you?

And I have only one child.  I can’t imagine how someone with a brood keeps track of all the data:

  • All those different ages translate into different calorie needs. 
  • Different calorie needs translate into different serving sizes.
  • On top of this, the nutrition approach also asks us to remember how much juice everyone drinks, how much spinach is in their slice of lasagna…

Maybe this is why we are all slackers.

Food manufacturers take advantage of slackers by selling us foods that appear to meet our children’s nutrition needs, but which ruin their habits instead.  Read How Brands Bite You in the Butt.

You can rule as a slacker.  All you have to do is change your approach.

There’s an easier – and more effective -- way than nutrition to feed kids: Just get the ratios right.

But it’s not the ratio of protein to carbs, of fats to fibers, or of processed to refined grains that you need to track. (That’s too taxing.)

You only have to consider one thing: Do your kids eat real food more often than they eat:

  • Processed food-like substances (to borrow a phrase from Michael Pollan)
  • Junk

Tweak the basic Healthy Food/Junk Food model most of us use when we’re making decisions on the fly.

Of course you know more about nutrition, but when pressed, most of us boil everything down to one thing: is it healthy or is it junky? So take what you're already doing and modify it like this:

Then, instead of thinking of Fun Foods as alternatives to Growing Foods, think of them as sharing time with the Treat Foods.

 

Most parents feed their children more Fun Food than anything else because it's easy.

From a nutrition perspective Fun Foods might not be so bad. (Although the more you know, the harder it is to believe that.)  Read: Are Chicken Nuggets Really Chicken?, Mac & Cheese Scores Again! and Is "Yogurt-Covered" Really Yogurt?

But from a habits perspective relying on Fun Foods is a disaster. These foods all point kids in the direction of junk. That's why they have to share time with the treats.  Read Cookies for Breakfast?

Contrary to popular advise, it's the habits, not the nutrition, that shape how your kids eat.

So be a slacker and forget about nutrition.  You'll be doing your kids a world of good.

For more on this read Why Nobody Needs Nutrition Labels and Nutrition by Numbers.

~ Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits. ~

Wednesday
Jul292009

It's Too Simple!

It’s too simple an answer. 

That’s what one reader said in response to my last post It Doesn’t Matter WHAT Your Kids Eat!

I advocated switching how you think about food.  Instead of paying attention to nutrients like calcium and protein I suggested you organize foods according to how frequently they should be eaten: 

  • Growing Foods: These are the fresh, natural foods you should eat most frequently.
  • Fun Foods: The moderate foods – packaged, sweetened and/or high in fat – that you should eat less frequently.
  • Treat Foods: The junk that you should eat least frequently.

 “What about not serving your kids processed foods, or finding alternatives without all the additives?” this reader asked.

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